With the recent release of the movie "No Strings Attached," it's a good time to really delve into the idea.
People are curious and always think they can handle a "no strings" relationship.
Is it ever a good idea to risk ruining a great friendship by delving into each other's forbidden fruits? As humans and sexual creatures, people are complicated and patterned to become emotionally attached.
That's why it's called taking a relationship to a higher level.
Most couples start off as friends.
They enjoy each other's company and feel themselves wanting more from a relationship and as adults, decide to pursue a sexual relationship.
If you really think you want a no strings attached relationship, get some legal advice...
Seriously! If you don't want to get emotions involved, involve an attorney who will draw up a legal contract of what you want from the relationship and how you are each going to end the relationship when either or both want out.
A legal binding document makes it is a lot easier for each of you to walk away, keep no strings attached, and adhere to the contractual agreement.
Most counselors and relationship experts do not recommend that people try a "no strings attached" sexual relationship.
If you are already friends, whether you realize it or not, you are already emotionally attached.
It's not worth the risk of a great relationship.
As women, we are likely thinking that it will evolve into something more.
Men on the other hand usually think logically and aren't realizing the underlying emotions already at play.
Somebody is going to get hurt.
When we agree to add sex, it always complicates the relationship for each party involved.
That's why we try to keep our children from having sex until they are really emotionally mature.
Sexual development starts much earlier than emotional maturity.
Rarely are two individuals of the opposite sex capable of not becoming emotionally involved.
It's all a part of the package that makes us human and the act of sex so sensual and deeply emotional.
There is nothing like intimacy between a couple that truly bonds us emotionally.
That's the beauty of human nature.
When a friend suggests you try sex without strings attached, tell that person you value the relationship too much to risk losing them as a friend.
Often, things will evolve emotionally and physically between each of you that may lead you to both try the relationship as a true couple rather than trying to stuff your feelings or negate or try to hide your true feelings.
When you are both really ready, try life together as a couple rather than as just friends with no strings,it will be much more rewarding for you both and though things may not work for you as a couple, you took the chance, always acknowledging to each other your true feelings as soon as you are aware of them.
When you are confused about where you are in a relationship or need some help as a couple, find a counselor or relationship expert to sort out your life.
Many are available for in-person or phone appointments or on-line.
A simple call or text or email can start you on the path of help and healthy recovery in any aspect of your life.
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